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About This Workshop

It’s rarely over when it’s over in a toxic relationship, especially if you share custody or must stay involved with an abuser.

But that doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can do! In this workshop, we cover everything you need to know, starting with exactly why no contact and grey rocking are the most effective ways to deal with a toxic person still in your and your family’s lives, when and how to use these techniques and specific things you can do.

When you understand what “no contact” and the “grey rock method” are, you can learn how to protect yourself, not get dragged back again and again into the drama, and effectively regain control of your life.

We’ll make sure you’ll learn why emotional detachment is so essential in moving forward, and motivate you to take action (to restore your physical and emotional health).

Workshop Curriculum

  • 1


    • Intro & Background

    • Why This Topic?

    • The Transformation

    • Workshop Goals

    • Journal Prompt #1

  • 2

    How is No Contact Helpful?

    • What Going No Contact Does

    • What is No Contact NOT good for?

    • The Real Goal of No Contact

    • Journal Prompt #2

  • 3

    Going No Contact

    • What's Involved in Going No Contact

    • Why is No Contact So Important?

    • What to Expect When You Go No Contact

    • How They Might React

    • Journal Prompt #3

    • "Hoovering"

    • Your Own Feelings

  • 4

    The Grey Rock Method

    • What is the "Grey Rock Method?"

    • How to Grey Rock

    • Journal Prompt #4

    • When Others are Watching

    • Homework Exercise

    • Homework Exercise

  • 5


    • Goals Review

  • 6


    • Facebook Live Q&A

  • 7

    Supplemental Materials

    • Workshop Notes

    • Journal Prompts Worksheet

    • Workshop Slides

    • Workshop Goals

Workshop Host


Lisa Johnson

My toxic marriage lasted for nearly two decades, and I had no idea what I was actually dealing with until after I got out!

I am a state-certified domestic violence advocate and trained crisis counselor, with a background in education. I was able to use these skills to successfully represent myself in court for the past few years since the divorce, battling an ex who has disobeyed multiple court orders without consequence (yet!).

Even though I live the “warrior” lifestyle, I’ve managed to balance that with sole parenting my two nearly adult children, running a business in fashion, and loving life with Chris, who makes me laugh more than anyone.


  • How long will this take? I don't have free time.

    How much time are you already spending on worrying, arguing, Googling your partner's irrational behaviors, and losing sleep? Each of our course modules is divided into bite-size chunks, which you can listen to at your convenience (usually totaling less than two hours.)

  • I'm just looking for information. I think I can get through this myself.

    We got through it on our own, but we suffered unnecessarily along the way. Our goal in launching this program is to use our expert knowledge to get you through it a lot faster, cheaper, better, and with less pain than if you try to do it on your own.

  • Do you have a mobile app?

    Not yet, but the learning platform that BTGO's Sanity School is built on is fully responsive for mobile devices and should offer a great learning experience on any device.

  • Why do you charge for your workshops?

    There's a ton of free information available on the internet, some good, some not so good. We strive to do the best job of cutting through all the noise and giving you the most helpful guidance and support that you'll find anywhere. This is a full-time effort for us, and we simply need to earn an income from it. With all of that said, we feel that our workshops are priced very reasonably and affordably, and are a great value.


What real people are saying about Been There Got Out

“Thank you… It’s been a roller coaster but hoping I'll get it together and be able to say it's all in the past, smile, and get ‘me’ back. You guys are truly amazing!”

“Omigosh I am so happy to have found you both. I am not alone! I’ve said this before but thank you!”

“This message came at the most appropriate time in my life! Thank you for doing what you do. It is so important to so many, many women, men, children, and parents of abuse that is so prevalent."

“I look forward to the weeks to come and to learn more. I hope this helps me to get my head around why I can't seem to break the cycle permanently.”

“A complete 180 from my marriage. I am living a life I always thought would never happen!”

“Well, you have helped me in a great way. Everything you explained is exactly how I have been feeling!”

“I simply just wanted to thank you for just being there for me. I cannot express how much finding your website has meant to me.”

“I am working on me thank you so much ❤️ thank you!”

“I am out of my hell and slowly getting my soul back.”

“Chris and Lisa, THANK YOU! I didn’t know until yesterday I was in a toxic relationship. I took your quiz and lo and behold the proof is in the pudding!”